Monday, October 31, 2011

The many faces of Noah

When I was taking Emily's 3 month pictures last week, Noah was anxious to get in on some of the action.  He got his own bear for the pictures and posed with Emily.  He was trying to help me make her smile--here he's tickling her. 


Pretty soon he wanted Emily out of the pictures.  With the spot light all on him, I got an array of faces.  Silly, silly boy.  And here you have the many faces of Noah:

Silly Noah

 Sad Noah

 Mad Noah

Silly/Mad Noah

 Trying not to laugh Noah

 Crying Noah

My favorite: Happy Noah

Sunday, October 23, 2011

3 months!


Our sweet girl is 3 months old already.  Though we're still having some ups and downs, overall Emily's 3rd month of life has been full of more happy times.  Thank goodness!  While we spent the 2nd month with her basically eating, sleeping, or crying we are now blessed with lots of smiles and a few alert and happy times almost every day. 

3 Month Stats:
Weight: 13 lbs 8 oz
Length: 23.6 inches
Likes: Eating, Sleeping, Pooping (yep, those are still favorites!).  Playing with Mommy & Daddy--she loves just staring at our faces and smiling, making faces at each other.  Starting to like Bumbo seat and activity mat too.  Bath time.
Dislikes: Being left alone (she always wants someone to entertain her), too much tummy time, evenings, making her wait too long to eat or fall asleep

Daily routine:  We're still working on a real routine.  Though she seems to be getting into a better pattern with things.  She typically isn't awake for more than about an hour at a time.  Her happiest and most playful time is usually after first waking up in the morning (anytime between 630-8am).  After being up for about an hour she'll be ready for a nap.  On good days this first morning nap will last from 1.5-3 hours.  Then it's just a pattern of eat, play, sleep (shorter naps in the afternoon--30 min-1hr each) till bed time.  She seems to be getting ready to be out for the night between 530-7pm.  Usually this means she's ready to sleep, but fights it.  Evening time is still rough.  Most nights she's held from 530-8pm or so and will be restless and in and out of sleep during that time.  I wake her to nurse before we go to bed around 1030pm or so.  Most nights she'll now sleep till 3-4am before needing to eat again and then will go back to sleep till around 7am. 

This extra sleep has been a God send!  However, the only way (so far) we've been able to get her to sleep like this has been by co-sleeping.  We never did this with Noah but sort of fell into it with Emily.  Mike sleeps with her the first half of the night and then I take her after I feed her till morning time.  I think we're all getting more rest this way.  We don't plan for this to be a long term solution but will likely keep it up till I feel she's old enough to cry it out (at least 4 months) and we have the energy to do some real sleep training and be consistent with it (probably in December when I'm off for 6 weeks between semesters).  She's still napping well (most days) by sleeping in her swing.  Again, a HUGE thanks to Ruth for discovering this trick at daycare!

Highlights this month:
--Lots of huge smiles!  Love those big open mouth grins and full body wiggling smiles.  Love, love, love it!
--Started at day care and has adjusted well
--Talking and cooing more and more.  Also starting to try to imitate sounds and will take turns making sounds back and forth with us
--Tries to imitate faces.  Especially likes to stick her tongue out.
--Started speech and hearing therapies; Got ear mold impressions taken
--Registered with Pflugerville ISD.  I know--this is crazy!  But they track children that may need special services in the district even at this young of an age.
--Went to  the pumpkin patch; Went swimming for the first time.

We also found out this month that Emily may have been infected with CMV (cytomegalovirus) before she was born.  CMV is the leading cause of congenital hearing loss in babies.  Lots of people (well over 50% of the population) have it and don't have any sypmtoms.  It rarely causes problems for healthy kids and adults but can cause birth defects in babies if they are infected before birth.  We went to see an infectious disease specialist on Thursday and will be having some tests done to determine if this was the case and to check out some of her other body systems that may have been affected if so.  We're praying this all goes smoothly and that we will get nothing but good results back!

Miss Emily, we have SO enjoyed your smiles and wiggles this month.  You are certainly taking an interest in the world around you.  I LOVE that you love playing with us so much.  I know Daddy and I will not be your favorite play toy forever but we are enjoying that time for now!  We've had some hard times too.  We don't enjoy it when you are angry and look forward to when you can tell us what you want so we can make it better.  But we love you always no matter what.  And though sleeping with you at night wasn't what we'd planned, there's something special about snuggling up with you and feeling your warmth and listening to you breathe.  We love you, sweet girl.  Happy 3 months!

Monday, October 17, 2011

Only in Texas

Only in Texas (or other Southern states where it is ridiculously hot) do you still get to go swimming outdoors in the middle of October.

Sunday afternoon we went over to some friends to let Noah have one last swim of the season and let Emily have her first swim ever!  Admittedly, the pool was a little chilly but that didn't stop Noah.  They turned on the hot tub super low which made it feel like cool bathwater which is where Emily and Mike hung out.  I didn't venture in but just took pictures instead.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Pumpkins!

On Monday, we took advantage of some cool(er) weather on our day off and went with some friends to a pumpkin patch in Elgin.  We went to the same place with Noah when he was a baby and haven't been able to get back since.  It was a great time and nice to get out of the house.  We went with our friends and neighbors, the Smiths, who have Noah's buds, Ava and Elle, and Emily's boyfriend (and our Godson), Caleb.  One of Bea's friends, Kristi, and her daughter Taylor went too.  Noah and the girls had a blast.  The babies slept most of the time.  And the grown ups enjoyed some time chatting (or for Mike, chasing kids). 

Noah goofing around on top of some big hay bales


Stuck in the maze!
 
 Trying to pick up the big pumpkins


Mom-look at these cute little pumpkins! They're much easier to pick up!
 Someone always has to be the uncooperative one for the pictures.
Noah, Elle, Taylor & Ava

Duck Races!
You have to pump water to race your rubber ducky through the path.
One of the many great opportunities to burn off lots of little kid energy! 

 Pumpkin Decorating
 We took the hay ride out to the play area.  Here there was a playscape and lots of farm equipment for the kids to try out.


 Caleb and Emily having their "play time" while Bea and I catch up


 Even Mike had to test out the big tractor!
 My cute little loves

 Caleb (4 months) & Emily (2 months)
Just love them both and look forward to lots more playtime together as they grow!

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Bubblegum Ears

Emily got her ear mold impressions taken yesterday as the first step in getting her hearing aids.  So far my favorite thing about our early intervention team is that all the meetings take place at our home!  With as many appointments as we have it's nice to not have to drag everyone out and add travel time to our day.  So yesterday we met the audiologist we'll be working with for the first time.  We learned a lot.  And know that we still have a lot to learn.  Her hearing aids will have a little plastic piece that fits inside her ear that helps hold it in place-this is custom fit to her ear and called the ear mold.  The hearing aid itself will be the kind that  sits behind her ear and fits around it. Since the aids go behind the ear and not in it they don't have to be custom fit and thankfully will last a while (as the hearing aid is the REALLY expensive part), like around five years. The ear molds will have to be replaced often as she grows--probably every 2-3 months for the first years of her life (these are thankfully a much more reasonable amount to replace that often). 

The term "bubblegum ears" came from Noah as he watched them take her ear mold impressions.  They used a substance that looked a lot like silly putty.  One white and one pink.  The two were mixed together to start some type of reaction (so it would harden) and then squirted it into her ear.  After a while it hardened and when it was taken out it kept the shape of the inside of her ear.  While it sat in her ear it looked like she had bright pink bubblegum in her ears and Noah called her bubblegum ears.  She slept through the whole thing.

It takes 2 weeks to get the ear molds back so the audiologist is planning to come back to fit her for her hearing aids in 2 weeks--that's on Halloween.  She'll be just over 3 months old then. WOW!  It's amazing what technology is available.  After talking with the audiologist this week we learned that the technology that was used to detect and determine the specifics of Emily's type of hearing loss was only perfected in the last 5 years.  And the technology that is available to allow to isolate and program for amplification at only certain frequencies within the hearing aids is newly developed also.  In other words, if she was born 5-10 years ago we probably wouldn't have known she had a hearing problem until she was struggling in elementary school and even then the technology may not have existed to get her the type of hearing aid to best suit her needs.

Monday, October 3, 2011

Emily's Ears

Everyone knows all children are unique and different--no one child is like another.  We found out about a month ago that one of the things that will make Emily unique is that she was born with some hearing problems.  While this will present some special challenges for her, we are learning more and more about it every day and will be doing all we can to provide the very best for her.

All newborn babies receive a hearing screening test before leaving the hospital after they are born.  Emily failed this test on multiple occassions both before she was discharged after birth and again when we returned 2 weeks after she was born.  During these screening tests, her hearing passed in each ear individually and almost passed both ears together (100% in one ear and 90%  in the other) on one occassion.  But in order to officially pass, both ears must screen at 100% together.  We'd seen her startle and respond to sounds so there was no doubt in our minds that Emily was hearing. 

The protocol after failing the newborn hearing screen is to do a more thorough test controlled by an audiologist called an ABR--auditory brainstem response.  With this test, tiny ear phones were placed in Emily's ears and electrodes were placed on her head. The electrodes measure the brainstem response to the sounds played by the audiologist.  With this test, the audiologist can control how loud to make the sounds so you can specifically see how loud a sound has to be before it elicits a response in the brain.  Because we'd seen Emily respond to sound and because she'd come so close to passing her newborn hearing screens, we were surprised to learn that Emily did have some hearing loss indicated on her ABR test.

Since the initial test, we've seen an ENT and had the ABR repeated again for confirmation.  Emily does have hearing loss.  Her loss is considered a bilateral mild-moderate sensorineural hearing loss.  What in the world does that mean?  A sensorineural loss is one that originates within the structures of the inner ear or nerves that transmit sound.  We aren't sure exactly what the cause of Emily's loss is--her outer and middle ear are normal and the inner ear cannot be visualized without a CT scan.  Becuase this would require sedation, we'll hold off on that test for a while as knowing the cause won't really change our treatment plans for her at this point.  This type of loss is considered permanent.  Loss is categorized as mild, moderate, severe, or profound based on the degree of decibel loss.  Her's is mild-moderate which means she does hear, just not as well as she should.  In fact, hearing is tested at multiple frequencies (or pitches) of sound.  And in lower frequencies, Emily's hearing is normal.  It's the higher frequencies where she experiences loss--this means it's only certain sounds that she can't hear well. 

So what does this mean for Emily?  The recommendation with her type of loss is to get hearing aids and to receive Early Intervention services soon. The biggest concern with children that have some type of hearing loss is that it will impact their ability to learn speech.  You need to be able to hear clearly, to distinguish word sounds in order to be able to learn how to make these sounds correctly and develop normal speech.  With Emily's type of loss she'll have trouble hearing softer, higher pitched sounds such as those made with s, t, th, f, k, etc.  This would affect her ability to learn to make those sounds, therefore it's recommended that she have amplification (hearing aids) so she can hear those sounds correctly.  She'll likely need hearing aids for the rest of her life.  But with amplification and early intervention we expect her to develop normal speech and language skills. 

We've already been referred to Early Childhood Intervention and have our plan in place with them to receive services for Emily.  We'll meet with a speech therapist once a month and an auditory specialist four times per month.  All these visits will take place in our home (thank goodness!).  The therapists will help us make sure Emily stays on track developmentally, will give us strategies for helping us work with her as she begins to develop communication skills, and most importantly (at least at this moment) will help us navigate the process for getting her hearing aids. 

I'll be honest--the last month has been pretty overwhelming at times.  Lots of new information, LOTS of medical appointments--all on top of adjusting to life with a newborn.  You never want to hear the news that there is a problem with your child.  This is not what we would have chosen for Emily.  But this is not an insurmountable problem.  This is not a life and death problem.  So far, Emily appears to be in perfect health in every other way. We are VERY lucky that there are screening tests in place that identified Emily's loss so early.  And to think, at the time I was just annoyed at having to return to the hospital for additional testing.  Now looking back, I'm SO thankful that she did fail that last test by just the tiniest bit so that we were able to be referred and discover her loss now.  Years ago, cases like Emily's likely wouldn't be discovered until age 2-3 years when a child  continued to have trouble speaking.  We are fortunate enough to know about it now.  She'll have hearing aids before she even starts to distinguish word sounds so that she'll have every opportunity a child with normal hearing would have and should be able to stay on track in terms of developing normal speech and language.  In fact, she won't even know a life without hearing aids so we may be able to avoid struggles over getting her to wear them.

We still have quite the journey ahead of us. We obviously have a lot to learn--both about her loss and about how to provide the best for her whether that's hearing aids, therapies, or special classes as she gets older.  We'll also be doing some futher testing to make sure she doesn't have problems with other body systems.  Since so many body structures form quickly at the same time during fetal development, whenever you have a congenital problem with one system, it's important to check out other systems.  Ears and kidneys develop at the same time, so with Emily we'll be doing some urine and renal tests.  We'll also keep a close eye on her vision since children with hearing problems are at increased risk for vision problems also. 

We are thankful that we have been very supported by the team of specialists with Early Childhood Intervention and though we're just getting to know them, we feel like they are really going to help us on this journey.  And I'm thankful that we have a great pediatrician who will talk through the various steps with me in terms of medical testing--he respects my thoughts and opinions and will help us make the best decisions for her. 

We trust God completely in this.  He has always be faithful to us.  He will continue to be faithful.  Emily is loved by her creator and was fearfully and wonderfully made by Him.  Our prayer is that through this, His name will be glorified.  That years from now we will look back on this and see how He provided for us and for Emily and we will tell of the great things He has done in her life.  We trust that He will guide Mike and I as we make decisions for her future.   We appreciate your prayers for Emily and for our family. 

Saturday, October 1, 2011

If this doesn't make you smile...

I don't know what will!

Finally captured Emily's smile on camera. Love, love, love it!





And here's another from a few days later (getting ready for church):